DIY Divorce

If you can avoid using solicitors and legal professionals then it will certainly help keep costs down.

My ex and I have been separated for over 2 years now, which means we can just apply for a divorce without having to give grounds such as adultery or unreasonable behaviour. The fact we've lived apart is sufficient for us, and in a way is a good thing, as it means that we don't have to get all adversarial as in she did this, or he did that etc.

In the UK, you can obtain the necessary forms from your local county court. Call them up, and they will send out the forms required. Its fairly straightforward. The tough part is filling the buggers in!

I guess Im lucky, in that my ex and I are on speaking terms, and have agreed how things are going to be.

As I have children, Ive decided its vital that they are put first. There really is no mileage to be had in being really awkward or obstropolous ( as much as I'd like to at times), as all I'll do is damage myself and my children.

It can be very difficult mind, it is hard to put the anger, bitterness  and  ill will  to one side. It has to be done though, it remains unfinished business otherwise, and thats not good.

So, heres where I am in the process.

• Filled in forms got them all signed

The key parts of the forms were the arrangements for the children, and the finances. We managed to agree these without need of a 3rd party. Not everyone will be as fortunate and this is where some independant advice may come into its own.

Citizens advice bureau's and other similar types of organisations have people on hand to give free advice and support in matters like these. If you are earning under a certain threshhold you can claim legal aid too.

The next step is to file them with the court, pay £300 and wait for a response.