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Divorce Advice for Children

I found a great resource for children today. Divorce is tough on kids, they need all the help and support they can get. They’ll often feel pulled and split and dragged all over the shop.

I like what this page at Divorce aid has to say

You MUST remember these things:

Your Mum and Dad still LOVE YOU.

They will ALWAYS LOVE YOU, no matter where you all live.

They are not splitting up because of anything that you have done.

You may feel sad or upset but you will feel better.

Always talk to your Mum or Dad or another adult you can trust in the family.

It’s all true too - If you are a parent just think twice the next time you want to hit back at an ex, and if you are a child reading this, then try not to worry, it’ll all work out.

• You are not alone
• Its not your fault
• Remember this
• How do you feel?
• Who to talk to
• Someone hurting you?
• What will happen?
• Strange parents?
• New people?

Further help

• People to talk to
• Childline & NSPCC
• Great websites for you
• Leaflets for you
• Parents fighting?
• Have some fun
• Books

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Tips for getting through a crappy divorce day

Divorce days can be really crap

Some days you’ll just feel like shit. Maybe it’s today, perhaps you’ve just stumbled upon this site looking for divorce help after receiving a divorce petition, maybe you are wondering how you are going to deal with all these negative feelings of hurt and feeling low and are struggling for answers.

Here are a few points that might help you get your head around things, no solutions, just a few little tips borne from my experience of living it.

1. Go out for a long walk and clear your head - Its amazing how much a stiff brisk walk can help you unwind and release those tensions
2. Ring a friend and talk it through with them, don’t let your thoughts and feelings run riot, a problem shared is a problem halved
3. Just because a solicitors letter says that your ex want’s everything you own and a few dollars more, doesn’t mean that they’ll get it. Stay calm, pass the letter to your solicitor if you have one, or if not go and make an appointment to get some advice. You’ll feel better for having taken a positive step - give yourself a sense of empowerment and control.
4. Go out and treat yourself to something nice. Buy yourself that top you saw in the shop the other day, treat yourself to that nice box of speciality chocolates you like, or perhaps treat yourself to new scent for all those lucky people who are going to get to meet you at some point down the road.
5. Remind yourself that you are just having a bad day. It’s totally normal to have bad days. You’d be a weirdo if you didn’t have bad days. Divorce sucks after all, but it gets better, remind yourself of that fact and believe it too. Above all, remember that your friends or your family or your children all love you dearly, whatever has happened there’s nothing anyone on earth can do to change that.

Maybe you have some tips too, perhaps you’d like to share them here so others can benefit from your experience.

There are also  some interesting perspectives and helpful advice  on divorce here.

God bless

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Divorce solicitors and websites for England

Here are a few websites that are good resources for people loooking to deal with divorce. If you know of any other good ones or can offer a view on those below, then do please let me know in the comments.

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Share your Divorce Stories

Do you have a divorce tale to tell? Do you want to get a divorce issue off of your chest? maybe you can offer some expert advice on Divorce and help others through theirs.

If you’d like to see your article or opinions on a this divorce blog , then please drop a comment in here and I’ll be in touch.

You could be a relationship counseller specialising in helping people through their divorce and the problems that arise, or maybe you are a legal solicitor specialising in matrimonial break ups, or maybe you a refinancing expert with experience with working on divorce break ups and offering advice on the best course of action.

Whatever your experience, it could be useful to someone somewhere.

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